Me

Learning to Forgive

If there were no such thing as forgiveness, we would be a world of
incredibly angry, constantly hurting people. We all deserve forgiveness for
some wrongdoings, but how do we know when an action is forgivable and when
it simply goes beyond the pale? And if we want to forgive, but don't think
we can forget, can we truly forgive to begin with? Is there such a thing as
forgiving and forgetting?

Life is an adventure in forgiveness." Norman Cousins (1912 - 1990)

Forgiveness can be a wonderful act of healing yourself mentally, emotionally
and spiritually. But as anyone who has been through the process knows, truly
forgiving someone is just about the most difficult thing you can do. The one
question always remains - Am I truly forgiving someone if I can't forget?

The answer is this: Being able to forgive and forget is probably an
unrealistic feat. When you've been wronged, the mind tends to soak up the
emotional damage, which can affect you as a whole person. As a part of human
nature, it's very reasonable for someone to feel overwhelming hurt and anger
because memories and the mind are powerful things. When something negative
happens to us, those memories tend to implant themselves and fester. Even
after you've forgiven the situation and tried to forget, the memory of the
situation rears its ugly head, the cycle begins again and you're left to
wonder if you really were able to forgive.

i wish u all to live in Peace and happiness ....

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