http://search.zorpia.com/Xerious Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:23 EDT Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:23 EDT Zorpia.com http://search.zorpia.com/Xerious/journal/1744129 Learning to Forgive If there were no such thing as forgiveness, we would be a world of incredibly angry, constantly hurting people. We all deserve forgiveness for some wrongdoings, but how do we know when an action is forgivable and when it simply goes beyond the pale? And if we want to forgive, but don't think we can forget, can we truly forgive to begin with? Is there such a thing as forgiving and forgetting? Life is an adventure in forgiveness." Norman Cousins (1912 - 1990) Forgiveness can be a wonderful act of healing yourself mentally, emotionally and spiritually. But as anyone who has been through the process knows, truly forgiving someone is just about the most difficult thing you can do. The one question always remains - Am I truly forgiving someone if I can't forget? The answer is this: Being able to forgive and forget is probably an unrealistic feat. When you've been wronged, the mind tends to soak up the emotional damage, which can affect you as a whole person. As a part of human nature, it's very reasonable for someone to feel overwhelming hurt and anger because memories and the mind are powerful things. When something negative happens to us, those memories tend to implant themselves and fester. Even after you've forgiven the situation and tried to forget, the memory of the situation rears its ugly head, the cycle begins again and you're left to wonder if you really were able to forgive. i wish u all to live in Peace and happiness .... rafat_079@yahoo.com Personal http://search.zorpia.com/Xerious/journal/1744129 Sun, 04 Nov 2007 13:17 EDT