Is It Love or Is It Lust?


Ever have the thought that you could be dangerously in love? Falling into the
danger of having confusion and misunderstanding between love and lust, unable
to handle your emotions well enough?

Now, what is the difference between love and lust? Well, I should believe that it is
something worth our thoughts and understanding.

If you were to look through a dictionary, you should find something like this:

LOVE:
• To have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and
sexually attracted to them
• Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
• Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

LUST:
• An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power
• Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire
• Intense eagerness or enthusiasm

Notice how different they can be? Seeing the sign that you could possibly be
dangerously in love?

True love, the genuine care and concern for your love is what we should be
having. But lust, the uncontrolled desire or craving for your love is certainly not to
be desired. Having too much of lust than to love can certainly bring danger to
your love relationship.

But well, we are still human afterall and I must say that these very two emotions
is certainly within and happening inside of us. You can never deny that fact that
you will be having lust at times. But perhaps all these while, it just didn’t occur to
you that you have at times been actually feeling so, having some uncontrolled
lust over your love.

So, I thought it would be good to just bring to your attention and make you be
aware of it, to allow you to be better handling your emotions.

In simple, we can say that love is a choice; a choice that you hope to have; to be
having that chance to be with that someone whom you love, having that chance
to genuinely and unselfishly be giving him or her your true tender love and care,
bringing about that happiness for him or her. Whereas lust is a want, an
obsessive desire to have purely for self-satisfaction and pleasure...

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When you love someone, you love him or her for who they are. You always
respect your love and never insist on them doing things that are against their will,
which may include having sex.

Now, love is always a two-way communication and not just about you. In a love
relationship, you give and take. You don’t just take and take. By only taking and
not giving, you are actually behaving in a way of having lust, wanting just more

Do just honestly ask yourself. Have you unknowingly at times react in a way of
lust, unreasonably blaming your love when he or she is not able to meet your
expectations; not able to make you happy? And not to mention having forcing
him or her to do something against their will just to satisfy your very own wants,
to making you yourself happy?

Remember, nobody is perfect and that includes you. And that is why we have to
learn to give and take. We were taught that since young and it absolutely applies
too in a love relationship.

We give and we take. Not too much of giving nor too much of taking.

Have you unknowingly been taking too much? Think about it. It is still not late to
be realizing it now especially when you have that chance.

and more for yourself out of the relationship. Instead of providing your love with
happiness, you are only thinking about how your love can or should make you
happy. To describe it in a more ugly way, you are just loving yourself more than
to actually loving him or her. And this is certainly not the way as to how a love
relationship should be. A blissful love relationship should always be mutual, a
mutual happiness for the both.

Many at times, we tend to just think for ourselves and this can be especially so
for those who are already in a steady love relationship for or a year or more.
Well, in the beginning of the love relationship, both would always be on their best
to make their love, their partner happy. Just recall those sweet memories. Don’t
you just genuinely feel happy when you were able to make them smile and happy
back then? And to even be happy when accepting their bad habits and faults?

But very often, it is sad to be saying that thing changes when the both eventually
got together. Finding faults with one another, quarreling over the slightest things.
All the initial acceptance of one another was just not longer there anymore. And
for some, sadly to even have to end the very relationship.

Now, are you in a love relationship; one which has already passes that initial
honeymoon period? Still going steadily with one another? If you are, well done
and congratulations!

But do let me just ask. Between the both, who has been the one whom is always
the one giving? Well, there must certainly have been one of you who have been
the one giving more. Think about it.

Whoever that may be, I would say that he or she has given you their true love
and care, a wonderful and unselfish love. And this is definitely a love you should
cherish, a love whom you should respect.